Facebook has got to go.

It’s only been a few months since I rejoined the social networking site Facebook. I first gave it up back in 2014 and I’ll be honest, I filled the empty space it left in my life with a blog.

I started my first blog over on blogger and that was called KaboodleMum too. I started that well before I left Facebook but it never really stuck, I tried to write about the things I wasn’t told during pregnancy and it flopped pretty quickly. Once I left Facebook, and discovering WordPress by accident, I decided to try again with a blog on WordPress, and as time went by, what was once a space I ranted about how my pregnancy wasn’t what the books said it would be, became the home for our family related posts.

I started with the idea that I would write stories, share our moments and write little letters to Willow which she would then be able to read when she’s older. Over time, I started using the space here on KaboodleMum to fill with things that I enjoy. I’ve written poems, I’ve shared my photography and I’ve added countless other ‘features’ that I’ve since disowned.

After even more time, I thought I’d be able to make a living, or even a small sideline from blogging and I have since been trying to achieve that. It’s come as a cost though; firstly, I have swayed away from whatΒ my initial intention was and in writing about our life in they way I had hoped. Secondly, I have repeatedly spread myself thin when it comes to social networking, and blogging.

I can’t tell you how many times I have signed up for different social netowrking sites, only to forget about them three days later. I’ve also started maybe 10 other blogs which have also been neglected and forgotten.

The most recent one being – going back to Facebook.

I’m going to be honest, I didn’t want to go back onto Facebook, I truly didn’t. But following the advice of so many ‘how to be a better blogger’ and ‘how to be a serious blogger’ articles – and with it being a suggestion on the Blogging U courses, I decided to give it a go.

The thing I find when it comes to spreading myself too thin, something which I have written about before now, is that I get inspired and motivated to start these ‘pages’ and ‘blogs’ and think, “yes! This is a super cool idea which I love” and I run with it, full pelt at lightening speed only to realise a few days or weeks later that I can’t run that fast all the time. I can’t have a blog for being a mum, a blog for being a fangirl, a craft blog, a crochet blog, a YouTube channel for our stuff, a YouTube Channel for kids stuff, separate Twitter, Instagram and Facebook pages for all these places and anything else that comes to mind when I’m setting up these ‘ideas’.

So I did stop with all the others and tried to concentrate on KaboodleMum and including the things I like here too. It went well and I was happy, then life happens and illness and job losses and Facebook.

Let me tell you how I feel about Facebook; I loath it. I don’t just dislike it, or think it’s a waste of time, no, I passionately despise it with every fibre of my being.
And here’s another thing I’ll tell you about Facebook, it’s makes me incredibly unhappy. I don’t know exactly what it is about the site that makes me so unhappy but it does. I thought after 2 years things would be a little different and I would enjoy the feeling of being back and it was nice, for about 48 hours. After that, I slipped back into the old ‘scroll, scroll, scroll’ mindless action of Facebook. I barely comment on anything other than crochet groups and blogging groups, I’ve tried to not update my status and I’ve noticed that most of the content I do post, is cross posted from Instagram and here.

As a result, I have been negcletful of my blog, and I’ve not been keeping up with my friends blogs like I used to, and it’s made me frustrated and angry because I do, genuinely love their blogs.

So, last week I announced that I would be leaving again and a couple of friends commented saying not to, a few blogging groups offered advice about sticking with it as it will be worth it in the end and their words worked. I figured, since I have initiated a new group, Pinterest group board and Twitter chat using Facebook as the central hub, it would be rude of me to give it up. And I wrote about it yesterday on the KaboodleMum page and I gave it a chance. Many people would say that 24 hours is not a long time to give anything a chance, they would be right, it’s not. But I believe if I stay there any longer, I will continue to feel unhappy and by sticking to it, I am not giving myself a chance.

So I’m deactivating it, just like I did in 2014. I am going to find an admin for the Bloggers Corner group on Facebook but I will continue to manage the Pinterest and Twitter accounts for bloggers corner.

When I had only Instagram, Twitter and KaboodleMum, I was happier. I was very content with how things were going, I was confident in my writing and enjoyed doing what I do.
I don’t know why I can’t get along with Facebook, but I’m not going to stick around in the Hope that I will ‘like’ it one day. Twitter is a fast paced place that is ever changing and engaging, Instagram is a beautiful place full of beautiful things. KaboodleMum is my home away from home, my baby, my hobby.

I don’t want to fall out of love with KaboodleMum because I can’t fall in love with Facebook.

It makes more sense for me to go back to how things were, to be happier.

I’ve started going back through all of my posts, reading them and finding my voice again. I’ve also been really trying to clean up behind the scenes due to some errors and missing images, lots of my posts come up with X’s where there should be images. I’m hoping that tying up all the loose ends behind the scenes, getting rid of all my abandoned categories and forgotten features and creating a space where KaboodleMum goes back to being the place I wanted it to be, I can truly get back into my blogging style. The sooner I do it the better.

I’m also going to stop chasing a blogging-career. I want to be a happy blogger before I become a professional blogger so I’m not giving up on that dream, but I am going to focus a little more on what I have, instead of what I hope to have.

This post is a long one, so if you’re still here reading then thanks!

Do you have any similar dislikes when it comes to social media and networking sites?


22 thoughts on “Facebook has got to go.

  1. mudpiefridays says:

    Oh I can so relate to you with the whole Facebook thing. Although I had a personal page before I started blogging I never really used it and had gone through and got rid of all the friends from school I didnt talk to etc. But when I started blogging a year ago I thought I best have a page. Which I do, and I promote (sometimes) and get my posts added to it (But thats it). It doesnt really drive any traffic to the blog so I am not sure why I do it. I am hoping to give it a bit more time over maternity leave. However if its not right for you an making you unhappy then why do it? It sounds like you are successful without it. I have no idea how to turn blogging into a professional activity so I look forward to hearing all about it when you decide you are in your happy space again. Thank you for joining us at #BloggerClubUK hope to see you again this week x

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Thanks for popping by πŸ™‚ yep, Facebook is a horrible face, I’ve gotten rid of it now and it’s unlikely I’ll ever go back. I’ve also thought more about trying to blog professionally and decided that right now that’s not something I want to do right now, prehaps in the future though. At the moment I’m trying to focus on getting back into blogging properly lol πŸ™‚

  2. TheaLee says:

    I completely relate and find your honesty about your Facebook dislike so refreshing!
    I have completely stepped back from my blog, and many other groups and activities on Facebook specifically, because I no longer find it fulfilling. Something about being on Facebook at all just makes me feel depressed and detached from true personal connection.
    Good for you following your passion and love for blogging in your own way!!

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      I would totally recommend leaving if that’s how you feel, that exactly how I felt when I first left and now again. I’ve had a few comments here saying others agree. I thought that perhaps I was a weirdo who didn’t like it, I find it refreshing that others feel the same lol!
      As for finding things unfulfilling, I feel you, I’ve experience that before now, even with my blog and had a big break from it, you’re not alone on that front πŸ™‚

  3. Victoria (@LyliaRose) says:

    I hate facebook too!! I left it maybe two years ago. By the end I was only using it for my business page,but they changed that so much noone was seeing my posts. I stopped using it personally as I hated how people would only communicate on there and not in real life. A lifeslong friend didn’t tell me he was engaged as he ‘posted a Facebook status’ which I never saw! I also found myself following others conversation threads/arguments and wasting so much time on it, but it was addictive! I also had old school friends add me, yet if I saw them in the street or messaged them to say hi, I would be ignored! Why add me?! You know – I couls probably write a whole blog post too ranting about Facebook!

    Now I use Twitter, but only or my blog/business. I have no personal social medias as I see the people who are important to me. I am addicted to Twitter though, but it’s for my business/blog, so that’s OK right?! πŸ™‚

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Totally! I love Twitter too, I think it’s because it’s so fast paced that people are having more conversations rather than arguments, and I also agree with you, I would sit there reading through other people’s crap when I didn’t need to! I’m kind of regretting going back but I know I have to leave it behind again! I’m so glad I’m not alone though, I was beginning to think I was a weirdo lol

  4. nightwisprav3n says:

    I have a personal page on Facebook that is for my friends and family and I have a blog page but I will admit that since starting my blog last July, I am actually on Facebook less. I promote on my blog page when I can but I only share blog posts on my personal page if it’s something I think my friends and family will actually read. The problem with Facebook is even though you now get to choose which statuses to see, I still get bombarded with things I never even signed up for as do my friends and family so half the time they don’t even see my posts until a few days to a week later. I’m more involved with my personal account than my blog account because I have personal connections on that one but lately, even that one, I haven’t been on much because of all the scrolling I have to do to check on my friends. They’re the ones I actually have to search for while I get all of these other things in my feed that I don’t want. Facebook can be a pain in the a** but I still go back to it. You do you and don’t worry about what the blogging experts say. I have been taking a break from blog promoting myself, or rather, doing less of it because it has kept me from actually writing, which is why I love my blog. I know many blogger who aren’t on every single social media site, myself included, so you’re not alone. #bloggerclubuk

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Thanks! Yeah I know it can be a bit of a minefield on there, I’ve found the fact that all I see are shares and likes rather than statuses really annoying. I do prefer not to have it, personally and for blog purposes, I think I over estimated how important a Facebook is for a blogger, it’s not a necessity which I did think it was – I’m so glad though, because I am able to leave and not feel like I’m causing more harm than good πŸ™‚

  5. justsayingmum says:

    Oh I so get where you are coming from. There are so many social media platforms and it just seems so hard to keep them all up and running and interesting and current without duplicating across the sites. I’m twitter obsessed, have a wordpress blog and IG but also succumbed to the fb page recently but I’m finding it increasingly difficult to give fb any quality time and, you’re right, when obsessing over all the platforms, the blogging slips. I need to give some time and thought to fb but need to find that time yet #BloggerClubUK

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Honestly, after about 4 weeks I realised that unless I tried my hardest to get a ‘viral’ post, my page wasn’t going anywhere without me paying for it. Blogging is something I love and I felt like the pressure of keeping everything good and ‘likeable’ my blog suffered. My favourite thing came last in the list and that made me sad!
      Thanks for popping over πŸ™‚

  6. islandliving365 says:

    I have never used facebook for my blog as I really HATE Facebook. I had to set up one last night so I could reply to some comments on my article in The Huff Post but that is it. I won’t be setting it up or using it for anything else. In the past I found it to be such a time drain! I think keeping it simple is always best, well that is all my brain can cope with πŸ™‚ #bloggersclubuk

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Yep, I hate it too. I thought it would have changed after being away for so long but it really hadn’t. It was still full of crap, I found it very difficult to make conversations, I’ve spent the last two years conversing with like minded people on different blogging platforms, then Facebook is like “omg! So and so is doing such and such..” And I find so boring, give me a conversation about a topic we both like and I’ll talk all day, but that? I have no words lol! Thanks for popping by

  7. Amy M. says:

    Seriously, if it’s making you miserable then get rid of it. Who cares what other people feel you should do…I always say you need to do what’s right for YOU. I only have my blog and Facebook. I use Facebook mostly to keep in touch with family and friends that don’t live near me, and share things about my life. I can’t keep up with all the Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, everything else that’s out there these days! Just do what makes you happy, because in the end that’s all that should really matter. πŸ™‚

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Thank you πŸ™‚ I agree, I am leaving it, it’s not what I hoped it would be and it’s causing me to feel unhappy and stressed so I’m doing what’s best and get it out of my life lol

  8. Catherine says:

    I’m glad that you wrote about this. We have quite a few similarities. Like you, I thought that perhaps I could make a bit of income from blogging. Then I did research and realized with income comes loss of intimacy with readers. I don’t want that. Then I thought that social media would help to bring more readers or more visitors into my blogging neighborhood. It really hasn’t. I joined Bloglovin’ and I think I only got a grand total of 2 or 3 followers. I’m just gonna keep on writing for the people who really enjoy my blog! It’s better that way! XOXOXO!

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Yeah I agree, also, I’m more self conscious knowing that my stuff is being posted right under the noses of people I’ve know for years! I know that’s silly but I feel more inclined to be less honest and that’s not what KaboodleMum is about. I’d rather do away with it and go back to feeling confident and content with things.
      I also joined bloglovin and I never had a single view let along follow lol, I kept it there for a bit but I’ve removed it now, the WordPress reader is sufficient enough for keeping up with bloggers that I enjoy

  9. Jenna Richards says:

    I’m not a fan of Facebook at all really. Like you, I once deactivated my account and that lasted about a year and half. I now have a personal profile for practical reasons – keeping in touch with friends and family, checking our toddler groups are on, selling/buying things – so it does have it’s uses. I’ve never been tempted to create a Facebook page for my blog though. I like blogging but the social media and self-promotion side of it doesn’t interest me all that much. For me, at the moment, blogging is just a hobby so that’s how I’m going to treat it. I hope you feel happier again once you’ve cut your ties with Facebook.

    • Faye Elizabeth says:

      Thanks! Me too. I’ve toyed with the idea of creating a new one specifically for keeping in contact with family who live away, but I know that with the Facebook works and it’s promotional content, I’m still likely to see things that I don’t really want too! It’s frustrating, like you said Facebook has its uses and I begrudge not being able to just have access to those areas without the hassle of everything else lol.

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