Religion, Gay marriage and My Daughter.

To say that I am truly religious would be a lie. I am not a religious person. I believe there is something though, and to contradict myself even further, I call that something God.

See, I have read part of the bible, I have had a psalm book that I used to reference for some guidance, but I am not religious. I don’t go to church, but I pray. However, I still wouldn’t say that  I am religious.

Believing in something gives me hope, it gives me the sense that I am not alone. I like believing that there is a higher power and I believe that there will come a day when I will be judged, a day where I will walk in the sand. I look forward to that day, my day on the beach with the power I call God, I really do look forward to seeing those single footprints in the sand and knowing that I believed it and it was true. So, how could I not be religious?

Because I don’t like it. I am happy that I have my own version of beliefs, I am comfortable knowing that to many, I am a sinner. I know that when I am judged, there will be times I have sinned and times I have been good, but, I believe that it doesn’t matter, because I am a good person, and what some might call a sin, may not be a sin to me. You see, to me, falling in love is not a sin, sharing a child with someone who is not my husband, is not a sin. Not reading the bible or going to church doesn’t make me a bad person, it doesn’t make me a sinner. A sin, in my eyes is to kill, rape, steal, those are each unforgivable acts, whether you are religious or not, I think we can agree on that. But I have sinned, in the way I see sins, I have killed spiders and stood on snails and fed live mice to a snake, these types of things are my sins, these things will be mentioned when I am walking along that beach. I haven’t killed a person, I’ve never raped a person, I have not stolen.

What I am trying to say is this, what I believe, and how I close to believe it, is my choice. My belief being that because I choose to believe it that way, that is what will become my reality. So if you don’t believe in God, that’s fine, when you die, you die, end of story. If you believe in God, wholeheartedly, what you believe will happen when you die, is what will happen. It’s the same thing as comparing one religion to the next, each have their own set of beliefs and both believe that’s what will become their reality when they die. Does that make sense? So I don’t have to be a Christian to believe in God, I don’t have to follow him and worship him in order to get into heaven, I have to simply believe in the way that I believe and one day, I will see if that was enough. When we die, we’ll all know the truth of what happens, but until then, we can only choose to believe what we believe and that is something I feel is Each To Their Own.
Recently, America legalised same-sex marriage, the UK has already legalised same-sex marriages back last year. The past few days have been crazy in terms of news reports and blog posts and other social media outlets being bombarded with praise and hate. A lot of people are overwhelmed with joy at the ruling, there are very many people who disagree. Do you want to know what I think?
If God loves all his children, and we are his children, us men, women and kids, whether we be saints or sinners, are still classed as his children. How can we not accept a gay person because of their sexual preference? Because the bible says it’s a sin? That’s your argument? Don’t get me wrong, I know the bible says it’s a sin, but if God created us all, equally then, why? Why did he create people who are attracted to the same-sex? That’s what I don’t understand. I just can’t fathom how a deeply religious person can say they think that homosexuality is an abomination but also say, and mean it, that God created all of man kind in his eyes how he sees them, is that not contradicting?
The same could be said for those who believe God will cure their ailments if they believe hard enough and pray long enough, he will answer And make them well again? How many people have died because they refused help from the scientific/medical community because they believed God would save them? What if God was trying to save them by offering the medical help but they turned it down because ‘God will save me.’
The old saying ‘god works in mysterious ways’ springs to mind! 

if what the bible says in true then God made us. He made the world. He built our home from scratch and created what he wanted to create how he wanted to create it and you still believe that being gay is a sin? Premarital sex is a sin? Having a bastard child is a sin? Not being baptised is a sin? Babies who die that are not baptised go to hell, that’s what is said, if a baby, THE MOST INNOCENT OF ALL PEOPLE, dies and religion SENDS IT TO HELL!?

Fuck that.

I don’t want to believe that.

I don’t want to be a part of that.

That is the most unfair and truly awful thing I can think of and that’s a belief to you? You’re comfortable with that? That’s fine. Like I said, you’re reality and believes are different to mine and I am okay with that.
You know what else? I think  Gay marriage is great, see, you could argue that it’s not okay and that’s you’re fight, you stick with that but Me? I say it’s amazing. I think gay people and this ruling that allowed them to marry will teach us straight couples a thing or two about marriage. Do you know how special getting married is for gay people? Yet men and women everywhere get married daily and some don’t even last out a year! but that’s kind of okay isn’t it? Because at least they didn’t marry someone with the same genitalia as them. They’re still actively taking advantage of the meaning of marriage, “we will marry because weddings are fancy and an amazing party and that’s awesome but if it goes to shit we can get divorced anyway so bugger it lets just get married anyway, I’ve only known you six months but thats okay, because i am female and you are male so we can!” << This literally happens.

When I marry, I will marry for life. But that’s just me,

I would put my money on saying gay marriages will last longer than straight marriages and I think in years to come, the gay community will come out on top, they will have lasting marriages and meaningful relationships and those who think it’s wrong will have to admit defeat, surly? We’ll see.
Lastly, to bring this whole thing to an end, my daughter is the apple of my eye and I love her with so much of my heart, I leave little of it for myself. If she is gay I will embrace her and her sexuality and I will hug her with open arms. She is my child and I will support her with every fibre of my being, if she is gay and wants to marry a woman when she is older, I will dry her eyes on the day of her wedding and watch her as she says her vows because I will be a proud mother.

I will love her for who she is, in her entirety and I will embrace any lifestyle she chooses to lead (except drugs! but that’s not what we’re talking about). Sexuality isn’t a sin. At least not in my eyes.

If you believe that I am to go to hell because I support gay rights, because I am an unmarried mother and that is what’s coming for me, then so be it. I will take my moment on earth with me to hell because how I love and how I live my life is my journey, it’s who I am and I don’t care if I’m to spend eternity in hell, what I have here on earth is my forever, no matter where I go when I die.
I wish every single same-sex couple who plan to marry the very best! You enjoy your new freedom and be with the one you love!
As always, that’s for reading.


9 thoughts on “Religion, Gay marriage and My Daughter.

  1. Leela says:

    I was going through your blog and found this. Shouldn’t your tagline be LIFE AS “IT” IS FOR A STAY AT HOME MUM.

    Please ignore if I’m wrong. 🙂

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